What If the Good Thing Happens
I am an Enneagram 6. Which means I have thought about every possible way this could go wrong. Not occasionally — constantly, reflexively, before the idea has even fully formed. Running Anam Cara Clay Goods has made me see my 6ness more keenly than almost anything else in my life. And then a friend asked me a question I wasn't ready for: but what if the good thing happens instead?
The Things We Reach For
A fellow jewelry maker shared a concept with me recently called transitional object theory — the idea that humans instinctively reach for physical objects to feel held and grounded. I heard it and immediately thought about earrings. About the specific pairs we reach for on hard days. About why those pairs matter. And about a muted green scraps pair I made one evening that turned out to be more meaningful than I knew.
The Person You're Waiting to Become
When someone says they are waiting for the right time, we usually assume we know what that means. Fear. Doubt. Circumstance. But I think there is something else underneath it — something harder to name. I think what most people mean is that they are waiting to become a better version of themselves first. And that is the trap. Because that version only arrives when you start without her.